She’s friends with his friends his family photos together. Your post will help me out so much as I know that I’m not alone when it comes to situations like this! xx. Now hes the perfect bf to her and proved it with his actions…wth. He’s not. He was fucking his boss who was 14 years old when we married. Thank you so much for taking the time to share ?? He didn’t of course and I was so dammed misserable because I thought it was my fault .. . I’m sure his new girlfriend pays for the apartment. I’m expecting him to post pictures of a new girlfriend at any time. I think she’s the type to not tolerate his bs so he likes the chase, towards the end of our relationship he said terrible things to me that I still think about. You are worth so much more than a one-sided relationship. Fast forward a few years later, I ran into him and his new gf of 3 months. Bravo! I remember the first time I met my ex's new girlfriend, and she was the opposite of everything I ever was (at least based on my first impression). So if you really want to “Make My Ex Desire Me Again” then you only need to Visit Psychological Tactics To Get Your Ex Back. Also enjoying the new ladies showing him attention. Every conversation was about him and how he was so perfect and innocent and everyone else was a jerk and out to get him. What pissed me off was we both know one another. Natasha, you have a gift and have taught me more in your posts than years of therapy I’ve had in the past! But I am failing at University, I Keep breaking down and avoiding to write my Bachelor Thesis. ... That maybe, rather than being happy with the improvements since we broke up, that rubbing in the "new love" more money, better opportunities, etc couldn't be for much more reason than to try to get the ex to perhaps change her mind. Sometimes I found out about it. Thats the shortened version. XO. It’s awful. Take care of YOU. On our “anniversary”, I watched a movie with a friend then his best friend messaged me saying, “Oh it was your anniversary today.” (they were drinking at that time). He bought me stuff, he would play his guitar for me too. when we married he was 220. April 25, 2018 by Divorced Moms Leave a Comment Your article has been sent from heaven , I couldn’t be more grateful <3, Hi Haiti. I know that I am so much better off, now I just have to believe it. I know I deserved and deserve better, but getting over that kind of betrayal and seeing how happy they are together (still) after everything, is so painful. But he has all the time in the world now to nurture this woman who has grown kids and is living Ber life to the fullest. Dear Natasha, You are an angel and a saviour,without you i wouldnt make it through my devastating breakup. It doesn’t seem fair or deserving of this treatment but he does seem happy. I have been faithful but that itself isn’t enough . I was in a 7 year relationship with what I thought was the love of my.life. I had been thinking that he probably is happier with her, he is himself with her, he probably treats her like a princess, and that I am easily replaceable. It was so well-written and nailed every emotion I was having looking at my exe’s new girlfriend’s social media posts. It’s just incredibly hard for me to reconcile. Now, he is working on himself and I feel like he is going to look fantastic! I just wanted to release all of my thoughts haha. I don’t care if he’s changed his religion and is dating the preacher’s daughter or if he is hosting weekly dungeon orgies in his basement. I committed the ultimate sin & became the booty call because I was doing anything I could to stay relevant. This has left me spiraling for answers. You’re not alone. Truthfully has me in tears when I hear about things. Over time, everyone eventually reveals who they truly are and we, all too often, refer to this as a shocking “change.” This is because we don’t like and love ourselves. I have always said you can change a lot of things but you can’t change the core, the foundation, of who you are. I know this is an old thread but my ex is still happy with his new girlfriend and it has been 8-9 months. I never told him about this because I wasn’t sure if he was the serious type. You may have pushed him away as you relied on him for emotional support . It’s been a year and I’ve moved past a lot of it but when the year marker came around, haven’t ever been reached out to by him to own it or genuinely apologize, it still hurts like hell. He will regret the day he destroyed our family. You Get a Lot of Calls From an Unknown Number. Insecurities and issues are not fixed overnight, or ever. Until one day I found him tagged on IG by the girl I was curious about, that he told me was nothing to him and a “friend” from back in the day. I was with my on again off again boyfriend for almost a decade. January he called and said is get a call from a number I didnt know Don’t answer. He hasent sent one dime in child support. He told me that I was a beautiful smart woman and deserved someone who wanted a relationship. so he started going to the gym daily and over a year time he lost 110 lbs and looked amazing. Then when your ex finally comes back as you’ve followed the two principles above he’ll see that you’ve changed as a person and there be no reason not to get back together. But at least I can walk away knowing I put 100% in and did everything I could. He took a job making minimum wage so he would still have time for the gym. Remind yourself that no matter how convincing the situation is and how happy he looks in the stupid photos that he posts, he.has.not.changed. The trash was indeed trash and it was taken OUT. I’m sure many people compared their relationships to ours thinking we were this “cute couple”, but in reality, that just wasn’t the case. When the powers of the Internet revealed to me much more than I needed or had any business to know, it was an almost immediate downward spiral. I have read all of your articles…some about a hundred times. Up until a week ago he was practically begging me to sleep with him, telling me he lived and missed me, how he was going to church and trying to live his life the right way. If that was the case, gyms and hair salons would be A LOT more packed; they’d have lines out the doors! He called me 24 hours a day for advice. He glorified the fact that I was so independent. You are truly amazing thank you for empowering us and reminding us he importance of self love and dignity! I’m happy that the post helped! He’s called me names. You are never alone in this (or ever!). I don’t need crap or fake people in my life, Thank you so much for sharing, inspiring, and for being a part of this tribe. He really puts his new girl above and beyond over me. He believed he was exotic and women should feel lucky he is speaking to them. The pain is real and is there, but I realized that I had to pull it from the core and rise above them. Finally he married his affair partner and they have been together 20 years. I was in toxic relationship with one guy and when we broke, he started to date a new girl. But its already much better and its only been two weeks. I helped him over and over to find a job. YES YES YES!! Now I know I am only making assumptions based on social media (and I am learning to resist the temptation to look at their profiles! I’ve been seeing a therapist for the last month and am hoping to deal with my own issues so i can overcome this situation. He knows a lot of the things I went through, and has been completely understanding about it all, I just don’t want this horrible past relationship to impact my relationship with him. So many ugly lies and emotional abuse. He is the same guy. Well easy to have all those hobbies when you don’t have kids and a career and house to be responsible for. Thank YOU Azuka I’m happy it’s helped! What does she have that I dont? social media) level. Listen to Natasha .. cause she is right xxxx. He showed off his new girl on my face after spending almost five years together.. and this article is totally right. My ex tore me down to nothing, and made me feel small. (So stupid!) We had problems after I regrettably cheated during our 7 years married. I should have known from the very first moment we met that something was off with him. He said the woman he was seeing saw our messages. The job I helped him secure was in NY. You know like doing your daily routine but not mentally and emotianlly there?. The awesome part is, I will not see them. And now, your ex's new girlfriend has it! I pushed him to tell me why. Makes sense about the no texting times right….? He started being spiteful and leaving the house without saying where he was going. Everyone likes the new and exciting so by changing something about you, no matter what the reason you broke up, he’ll have no choice but to notice you. It would be great to get a 1 on 1 session , i think that would be my divergence. Yet he has this girl who he spends majority of his time with. He has now cheated on multiple women since me in a matter of months. All the time he was with this new ‘girl’! But damn it’s hard when social media blares in your face. My ex looks extremely happy on social media with his new gf. Keep coming back here to the blog. These easy sure fire ways will have your ex begging and crawling back to you in no time at all. I’m 27. In my case I had no idea he cheated on me , the break up was sudden , he was out late one night after training at the gym I fell asleep at home waiting for him when I woke up he was not home yet , so I Called him several times he didn’t answer , so of course I got worried , my first thought was his he ok , then when I kept calling and he didn’t answer I thought of maybe he is with a girl , finally when I got him on the phone is was about 1 in the morning , he said he was out with friends , long story short we were arguing as to how he should of at least messaged me or called saying he will be going out after the gym , instead he made me worry and think the way I did , he said that night that he doesn’t like it when I call him that much or ask him who he is with and that if I don’t like the way he treats me then we’re not meant to be together , so I automatically took that as him breaking up with me , and so now it’s been 7 months since the break up and the girl he left me for is exactly 7 months pregnant , and they are engaged. 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