Being 'offended' is not always a choice. Kenna could be offended because I can get pregnant, and I complain to her about how much I hate being pregnant. Member 705 posts Posted 06 March 2018 - 07:10 AM (Edited by soman, 06 March 2018 - 07:12 AM.) That's not a logical conclusion. Kenna adopted her baby. Being Offended is a Choice For over a year now I've been writing a monthly article for the Town Talk's Guest Pastor column. Senior Idol. Its a choice, that is the followed by an emotion. Being offended is a choice. We are not talking here about someone stabbing your or stealing your wife. “Elder Bednar said that being offended by what people say to us is a choice. I didn't adopt my babies. I don't have my parents. Have you ever reported someone for offenses here? Do you allow people to offend you? Offended. It's a shame every social issue nowadays involving race or different cultures are perceived to be unarguably offensive. Adults should be able to think for themselves and peacefully discuss their priorities. It's not about being submissive or passive against the so called privileged but whether you constantly see yourself as a victim or not is a personal choice. David Pollay discovered this concept. Truthfully, being offended is a choice we make. There is nothing that forces you to take offence other than your own moral standards, sense of righteousness and ego or self-image. My sensibility can be 'offended' without ever effecting my feelings. There is an old quote by Eleanor Roosevelt that says, When we make a choice, the tendency is to follow the path of least resistance. You might get mad and fight someone, you might cry or even commit an act of violence against yourself or another. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us.” — David A. Bednar 2. This part of this article is directed at the people who think taking a knee is disrespecting the military or our country. Guilty I know, I know....a little hypocritical. Being stupid is a choice too. Back to top #22 soman soman. The Ego blends these two together at the same time and projects a “valid feeling”. The Law of the Garbage Truck. It’s allowing someone or something else to control the way you feel. Why/Why not? 1 decade ago. Being offended is a choice. We’d still be British if your attitude had prevailed in the American Revolution. Even if there was an explicitly laid out program for improving one's emotional self-control that worked exactly the same for everyone, that still wouldn't make being offended a choice. And through feeling this way, they can come to the conclusion that they have been harmed (just as they would if they were verbally or physically abused). Even though we are different, we are friends. I am a working Mommy. You might not do any of those things though. u/RagingRambo. Being offended isn't a mark of virtue - it's a sign that you're a crybaby who will throw a tantrum if you can't get your way. So what has happened right now is that I am oddly more personally hopeful. 'You don't know what it's like to be ____ so you have zero right to talk about this issue!' Getting offended is a choice, and outrage is the fire of our own offence that we feed into an inferno. The other I asked you if being offended was a choice. If one was to think about the kinds of experiences that they have had so far this year, they may find that there have been a number of moments that have had a negative effect on their life. It isn’t up to other people to stop you from being offended. Why/Why not? That is not a choice but a condition. If you're offended by an expression of goodwill that's a you problem. Either you will be more offended by his words, or a little light-bulb will go off in your mind and you will instantly think of how useless being offended is.And since being offended easily is a choice, YOU are the one who holds the power to stop being offended. 49 comments. Close. 2 years ago. Being offended is a choice. But at least I owned up to it! Being offended is a choice and a choice with very few pros. Being offended is a choice May 07, 2018 at 3:03 PM In response to the Jonah Goldberg opinion piece " Cultural-appropriation outrage shows people are desperate to be offended … Yes 2. Now, this is not going to be the same as being verbally abused; what it will come down to is that one will hear something and they will feel hurt or upset, among other things. Being offended is a choice like any other. You might just hold a grudge. 55% Upvoted. Is it a choice? save hide report. Do you think being offended is choice? This thread is archived. But this is a false construct. Kenna is a stay at home Mommy. share. We’re talking about something that would disturb your sensibilities, your sense of what is right. “Instead of being offended or insulted, I’m advocating for being curious. I've encountered my fair share of discrimination but I have never felt 'offended' in any way. It’s becoming a victim of other people’s choices, many times when they don’t even mean to offend you. Now, this is not going to be the same as being verbally abused; what it will come down to is that one will hear something and they will feel hurt or upset, among other things. Today, we live in an over-sensitive, over-complaining, over-politically correct world where at any given time, some person or group is offended by something happening, usually not even directly related to them. Being offended is not a feeling. Typically it runs on the first Sunday of the month, but this month the first Sunday was also the first day of the month and I didn't get it to them in time to run so it ran on the 2nd Sunday, today, October 8. And from that you conclude that being offended is a choice. These are all things that are within your control. Kenna has awesome parents. Curiosity opens the possibility for dialogue and transformation.” And also this morning I have heard the thought about curiosity differently to ever before.. Just so you’ll know where I stand 1. It’s giving away your power. Asking people of faith to not use these is telling them to hide their faith. Which when then feels needs to be accepted by others and responded to appropriately. Stream Being Offended Is A Choice by jolly dee from desktop or your mobile device Wagging fingers and shouting obscenities at others is just plain disrespectful. 3. 0 0. Posted by. New comments cannot be … By Oliver JR Cooper | Submitted On April 29, 2016. Someone does or says something that is offensive. What happens when you get offended? This could relate to what has taken place in the real world, as well as what has occurred online. Offended. What good do any of these reactions do? Do you think being offended is choice? And through feeling this way, they can come to the conclusion that they have been harmed (just as they would if they were verbally or physically abused). However, being 'offensive' is always a choice, regardless of whether or not it is acceptable to the 'offensive' person or group. being offended is a choice. You may be able to train your stomach muscles so that you are immune to my punches. It’s an “It’s them, not me” way of thinking. It doesn't follow. "Being offended is a choice. Kenna is funny. “People get addicted to feeling offended all the time because it gives them a high; being self-righteous and morally superior feels good.” ― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life Daily reminder ... two very different nonprofits -more information about each found below and at websites. According to dictionary.com, the word offend is defined as: Verb (used with object) To irritate, annoy, or anger; cause resentful displeasure in. The problems involved with the questions belong to the questioner.” “Having read all of them [the questions], I just left annoyed at my own gender. Anonymous . Offended: Is Being Offended A Choice? The overwhelming response was, yes, it is a choice. Archived. He teaches how some people are like garbage trucks. 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